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Embark on a riveting journey with Small Town Big Mouths, your go-to podcast for the highs and lows of collectible hunting, retail adventures, and the unexpected twists of life. Join us as we recount the hilarity and heartache of chasing after elusive Stanley Cup collectibles at the crack of dawn, and discover why your Super Bowl party might take an unexpected psychedelic turn. 🏒🌈 But the thrills don't end there; we dive into the dating trenches, expose red flags you can't ignore, and reflect on the bittersweet evolution of friendships. 🚀🤝

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Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:04

Welcome to Small Town, big Mouths podcast, where our three hosts will be unraveling tales about dating and life in general that will have you laughing, nodding your head and even cringing in sympathy.

Speaker 2: 0:16

Hey everyone welcome back.

Speaker 1: 0:17

Happy New Year. This is Misty aka Dolce.

Speaker 2: 0:21

And this is Nikki, your resident bartender. So as we were sitting here around the table we were talking about, I'm just going to tell you guys how fucking bougie I am right now. I own a Stanley fucking cup Fired.

Speaker 1: 0:35

I think everybody owns a Stanley by now. Really, do you have all the Stanley's?

Speaker 2: 0:40

I have this one right here, this one.

Speaker 1: 0:42

Okay, just one.

Speaker 2: 0:43

Oh, you're good, then You're good Okay cool, you're not bougie, all right, all right, but I want more. Because I went and stood in line. Well, I didn't stand in line, so the pink and red cups were coming out, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. The girls at the bar were telling me that these are coming out and I'm like what? I'm like all into their story. I'm like, well, how do we get some? Can we call target? Well, they hold them. I'm like I have a million questions, how many can I have? And they're just like you want one. I'm like, yeah, they're like, we're going to go check. So they go to the two targets in Clovis. They say they're going to have them in the morning.

Speaker 2: 1:12

Long story short. I go in at like 805. There's nobody, there's nobody, there's no. So I think this was a different one. It wasn't just a Starbucks one Like the one that I saw recently. I thought it was just like a Starbucks release, because I saw Starbucks employees putting them in bags inside the Starbucks, inside the. This was a completely different one. It was on January 1st and I feel like this one that you're talking about was after Maybe.

Speaker 1: 1:36

So I just know it was Valentine's. They're like pink and red, these were two. And people were like standing in long lines for them.

Speaker 2: 1:42

Okay, these were two. So I'm like I walk in the back of the doors you know the warehouse thing. I'm like trying to get someone's attention. So finally someone comes over and I'm like I know I'm super late because it's five minutes after eight, but she's having more Stanley's and the guy's like uh, we didn't get any. And I'm like what? Now these girls went there last night and they told them they're going to have them, you gotta, you gotta. So they went to two of them, I go to the other one. They don't have them. Then that guy over there tells me the only store that got them was Herndon and 99 or Marx and 99 or Herndon or wherever way out there. They got 17, 12 pink and five red. And I'm just like what the fuck? The girls went out there and they were only supposed to get two each. The girls were sixth in line but they let people get four. So the girls didn't get any.

Speaker 1: 2:34

And they drove all the way out there. Yeah, okay, so my question is, first of all, how much?

Speaker 2: 2:38

were these. They were 49, 95 or something. Okay, because standard.

Speaker 1: 2:43

Yeah, and then I understood why the lines were happening because people were reselling for like 200. Girl, but you wanted to keep it, I wanted it for myself, yeah.

Speaker 2: 2:52

I wasn't trying to resell it, but I've seen them on on one of the guys at the bar we sat. He was on. It was eBay or I don't. I think it was eBay. It was like $1,000, but it was two pink and one red, but it was a thousand. It was $995 was the bid.

Speaker 1: 3:09

What? Yeah. So that's why there was a yeah. Didn't that make sense, cause I was like why are people standing in line going crazy over a Stanley guy?

Speaker 2: 3:16

Okay, but one order, one Amazon. Once you get it, then what?

Speaker 1: 3:20

I mean, then they're selling it oh so these people are going to buy?

Speaker 2: 3:23

no, but these people that are buying them for like a thousand dollars Now, you're going to buy this cup. Now, what it's status? What is it it's? I have no idea.

Speaker 1: 3:30

I have a pink.

Speaker 2: 3:30

Stanley cup. Like that's the part.

Speaker 3: 3:32

I'm trying to still understand. I mean, stanley's been around since 1913. Thirteen, yeah.

Speaker 2: 3:37

Thermoses. They had thermoses. My dad had one. It was fucking green with like dimples all in it. It was beat to shit.

Speaker 1: 3:43

Okay. So I heard this. I heard about this. An influencer put out a Stanley cup and because she was an influencer and her main audience were women, she got a huge like feedback, a lot of audience what cup do you have? That's so cute. So then this happened. So Stanley marketing. They took notice and they started going wait, we're doing this all wrong. We've got to start launching for females. We've always launched to the male and they're not caring, they're not buying, they're just they're like buying yellow thermos for the work truck.

Speaker 2: 4:20

They're like well, just give me that shit.

Speaker 1: 4:21

And they got one. And so they were like wait a minute, because obviously we all knew how Yeti took off. Yeti took off at one time right, that was last year, yeah. So they then said why can't we be the next Yeti let's come out with?

Speaker 2: 4:33

you know better colors, more and more so they just had a great, because they're the same price as.

Speaker 1: 4:39

Yeti's yeah, they just got a great marketing plan and start coming out with pretty colors and then where you're seeing these people like what are they going to do with it after?

Speaker 2: 4:46

Well, now they have limited editions, so it's like so you're never going to fucking drink out of it, then what are you? Putting it on a shelf and never fucking touching it?

Speaker 1: 4:54

It's like a beanie baby, that's what I'm saying.

Speaker 3: 4:57

I've seen TikToks where the lady had like these shelves. I did see she had shelves. I did yeah, every freaking dollar.

Speaker 2: 5:03

But she's never drinking out of them. Now I don't know, is this what they're just there for looks Cause that's just weird to me. That is very weird, unless you have what I have now. Let me talk to you girls about this for a minute. Yeah.

Speaker 3: 5:14

I mean, people are standing in line. It's like Black Friday, yeah yeah, and Nikki has a freaking keychain.

Speaker 2: 5:22

It's a charm. Okay, we saw TikToks.

Speaker 1: 5:24

You gotta explain to people what this is.

Speaker 2: 5:26

So it's a heart shaped piece of plastic that anchors to the cup with like, and it's dishwasher safe, this piece, it's good to know dishwasher safe and it has these little charms that you can hang on it. One holds my chapstick and one's just a fucking fluffy ass ball that I just. It's so soft.

Speaker 1: 5:42

No, but actually this is a great idea. I didn't bring my Stanley, but what I did was I go to the gym and I have a bar code that you have to scan. Yeah, and I was like you could put anything you want on there. Yeah, I taped my bar code to my Stanley so I could just go up to it, you know. But I was like, no, I can actually hang it from that.

Speaker 2: 6:00

Yeah, that's a good idea and I One of the guys at the bar. It was on TikTok, it was all over. There was a lady that had a Stanley cup. She had it in her car. Her car caught on fire Did you guys hear that?

Speaker 1: 6:15

I heard that. Yep no.

Speaker 2: 6:18

There was ice in it and she posted this TikTok or Reel or whatever the hell it was, and it went fucking viral and Stanley bought her a new fucking car.

Speaker 3: 6:27

Yes, oh, my goodness, I read that. Well, I mean they should, with a 751% increase in sales, uh-huh.

Speaker 2: 6:34

Yeah, that's fucking crazy.

Speaker 3: 6:36

And that is so crazy.

Speaker 2: 6:37

That is crazy, but it doesn't mean that just happened. That lady didn't happen, but that's like, yeah, they've got the money definitely.

Speaker 1: 6:44

Yeah, well, hey, and now they're making charms. Who knew it's?

Speaker 2: 6:47

actually, though, where did you find that? This was at Dick's Sporting Goods, and it wasn't just for Stanley? It goes on Yeti's, it goes on Hydro Flasks. It's got a list on the front of like which ones it'll go on, so I don't see why I can't go on it. It's not really like curved. You know what I'm saying? Yeah, yeah.

Speaker 3: 7:05

Good glue or good adhesive? Yeah, that's all it really is. And dishwasher safe.

Speaker 2: 7:09

There's another one that has like little bears on it or something. I just you know I'm. It looked like a baby toy. Yeah, I don't mind this fucking fluffy pom-pom thing, but I draw the line of baby toys bitches.

Speaker 3: 7:20

I like the kids in elementary school with the little charms on their back Exactly.

Speaker 2: 7:24

That's exactly what it fucking looks like, but I happen to see my chapstick more often and I've been drinking more water.

Speaker 1: 7:30

Nicky's a big kid.

Speaker 3: 7:33

This is what this says Say you're a big kid without saying it Exactly Let me get my chapstick out of here. I love it yeah.

Speaker 2: 7:41

But I've been using my chapstick and drinking more water, so that's the plus side to it.

Speaker 1: 7:44

I love it that is a plus side Love it, so I need to wash it. So okay to switch gears, because I know we usually have some content and we're just kind of going with it. But I want to interject because I'm very proud of myself and this bartender. And I'm kind of curious, I wanted to ask you this day, eight dry January for me.

Speaker 3: 8:03

Oh yes, this won't air until the 30th.

Speaker 1: 8:08

That's so I gotta make it.

Speaker 3: 8:12

Yes, yes. So obviously everybody knows, we prerecord so now my accountability.

Speaker 1: 8:18

That's right yeah.

Speaker 3: 8:19

I won't judge you yeah.

Speaker 1: 8:22

I'm actually trying to go to Super Bowl to be real, because then I'm gonna have fun.

Speaker 2: 8:30

It'll be at a house party. But oh, oh, you're saying you want to go to a party.

Speaker 1: 8:33

Yeah, yeah, I'll go to a house. I'm not going to. You want to?

Speaker 2: 8:36

make it until Super Bowl not drinking. There we go, yeah, yeah, yeah, gotta gotta yeah, february 12th.

Speaker 1: 8:41

I think it is, yeah, the second weekend. That's like six weeks.

Speaker 3: 8:44

I know how does it feel.

Speaker 1: 8:46

Well, you know what I can. We get in trouble with podcast.

Speaker 3: 8:53

I want.

Speaker 1: 8:54

I actually think that I mean it there. It's a little bit legal now so I can, so I'm not drinking, but I Like I'm microdose a little shrooms.

Speaker 2: 9:08

There we go. No, I can. So, yeah, I'm Micro-dose alcohol. Yeah, yeah, I love it. I'm telling you I would like to my.

Speaker 3: 9:18

I feel like I'm gonna be in the corner crying and letting out my inner child. Well, do you do?

Speaker 2: 9:23

edibles at all. It makes me know what.

Speaker 3: 9:25

I don't. I always say like I don't smoke or anything, and hopefully my kids don't listen to this, but I've been eating what. Do gummies, but I've been doing a little bit chocolate edibles edible chocolate Okay, yeah, you like them, but I only do it when I'm drinking because I'm like I don't know how I'm gonna feel Doing it just by no, you have to do it by itself, like I literally.

Speaker 1: 9:51

Shroom and THC yeah yeah, okay, well, my, my friend I won't say his name, but my friend wants to take me to tool and he's like that's where we're shrooming.

Speaker 2: 10:01

It's gonna be, they're gonna be at the same mark Wait, are you gonna do like a full dose?

Speaker 1: 10:05

No, I always microdose. I don't right so but like going to see tool.

Speaker 2: 10:09

Are you gonna like amp it up a little?

Speaker 3: 10:10

bit.

Speaker 1: 10:11

I intensifies everything for understand what I grow it does, if I know what she's saying, though, because if you do a little more, yeah, you're gonna get a little bit more yeah, um, I don't know, I don't like that, I don't like right where.

Speaker 3: 10:24

I feel loopy.

Speaker 1: 10:26

Yeah, because it you can feel, or for me I feel dizzy, but I love just, I know exactly what I can do because I've been doing it. You know enough like last year of microdose and so I know just enough to where it amps. The lights just good and the music just good, like where I want to be. You know what I mean?

Speaker 2: 10:44

Yeah, so I will definitely bring some, yeah you have to do more like okay, cuz I do, I eat edibles and I do 10 milligrams when I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I I.

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Not a big deal. Yeah, like not a big deal. She told me she's like look it's, I'm like, and she's like it's all over the floor. And I'm like it's okay, and I saw one of the like helpers or boys or whatever, and I was like, hey, there's. I just said there's water right here Cause it's a slip and fall house.

Speaker 2: 20:44

Yes, it is yeah.

Speaker 3: 20:46

So I didn't see them come clean it.

Speaker 2: 20:47

No, he came right out and clean it up and he put a fucking sign out there and I was like, dang, you want a job?

Speaker 1: 20:52

Yeah, I didn't do the Niners one cause they have these. They have these in places X lanes.

Speaker 3: 20:57

That's where I heard that they're at. And why love X lanes? Oh, where we're supposed to go there.

Speaker 2: 21:01

Wait, where is X lanes Fashion fair? That's the place under fashion fair.

Speaker 1: 21:04

I've never been. Yes, oh, I need to go there.

Speaker 3: 21:06

That's where the Niners people go.

Speaker 1: 21:08

That's what I heard.

Speaker 3: 21:08

Yeah, See.

Speaker 1: 21:09

I need to go there, we should go there.

Speaker 3: 21:11

Yeah, I'm down to go too, yeah.

Speaker 1: 21:13

The Niners are stacked this year Like that'll be good.

Speaker 3: 21:15

Yeah, they're doing really well yeah.

Speaker 2: 21:18

Yeah, cause her, her man's a Niner fan, so we could eat. Oh, okay, yeah, I mean I'm still gonna make out this year.

Speaker 1: 21:22

I didn't even watch the game yesterday cause I have to go somewhere, cause I cut out cable. So I'm usually going somewhere, or my son he's taught me how to be able to stream for free.

Speaker 3: 21:31

Yeah, yeah. So it was good Like Shaw had a good place. Yesterday was as packed as I've ever seen it.

Speaker 2: 21:37

Yeah, oh, I did. All I was gonna say was I went up there to order and I was like, give me two Kors lights, a Corona Michelada and the girl I felt so much she's right down yeah. She goes can you hold on? I have to write this down and I'm like what the fuck is going on? What?

Speaker 1: 21:53

you never said Nikki's like. I hold 10 drinks in my head without writing it down, but this is where I felt bad for you.

Speaker 2: 22:00

You could tell that they don't. I don't want to say they don't know what they're doing, but they need help making like better systems. Because she took her order and she, after she wrote it down and then there was only one more drink after that, she walks over someplace else and makes like something over here. Then she comes over here and does something. Then she's like over there and I was like what the fuck is going on? Like, bring all your shit to one place, you make it all there, you hand it out, boom, you're done.

Speaker 2: 22:21

Yeah, I don't know what was going on. I felt bad but, like I said, she was very nice, but everyone's sitting at the bar was like oh, you have to yell at them, you have to wave at them. I'm like I am not going to do that, like I do not do that to bartenders. But then I noticed someone told us there was a line which was weird too, because there was three people working and I don't really know how the line was working out and it eventually it ran into the food line. Like there was this line, and then this line was coming out of it.

Speaker 3: 22:48

It was super packed. I mean, I honestly think if you would be willing to go in there and talk to the owner, I bet you. I mean you could probably go in there and be like, look, I've been doing this for 31 years, let me come in here and help your people.

Speaker 2: 22:59

Dude, I just want just a couple of Sundays, you know what I mean.

Speaker 1: 23:02

That's why they need a training system, obviously.

Speaker 3: 23:04

It's busy like that, that's good business.

Speaker 2: 23:06

Yeah, it was nuts.

Speaker 1: 23:08

So I have a question for you because of the dry January. So I went to Pizmo's and I said, because you know, this is all like new for me, I like ordering cocktail, but I've just really told myself you know what. I'm going to start doing it, cause I feel like the holidays it's like from Halloween to New Year's Definitely. And I'm just yes, and I just feel bloated and I'm like I want to detox.

Speaker 2: 23:27

Eating, drinking, partying.

Speaker 1: 23:28

Yes. And so I went to Pizmo's and I go, hey, I go, you know what, can you make me a mocktail? I just want a mocktail. And they're like well, is there anything that you like? I go just yummy. I go, just, yummy mocktail, yummy Citrus, I mean, go with that. And I go you know, surprise me, I'm not picky. And so they did, and it turned out really well. But then I went up to the bar and I so I had two that day because I had dinner and I went up to the bar and the gal goes, oh my God, a mocktail again. She's like I've had so many of these today. So I was curious are you getting? Probably not the young kids, okay?

Speaker 2: 24:04

So I have made mocktails at the bar and I just want to say that I know how to make mocktails and I know how to make mocktails with the shit we have at our bar. But this kid the other night, the way he came out me was like sideways with it. He ordered three cores you know banquets but he was being a little prick and then he goes what do you got? That's no alcohol. And I was like, well, I have water, I have this, I have that.

Speaker 2: 24:27

And instead of saying like I didn't know if it was just for a sober driver or if it was a girl that wanted a mocktail, he never said you know, I don't know what you're doing out there, yeah, yeah. So he's like get another bartender. And I was like, wow, yeah, and I'm like this, I go why? So they can come over and tell you the same thing. We have soda, we have water, we have juice, what do you want? Like milk, right, and you're at a fucking busy ass bar, like I don't have time to like.

Speaker 2: 24:52

So if you, if he walked up and said let me get three cores and some sort of yummy girlie mocktail, I'd have been like on it, okay, cool, I'm on it. But when you start asking me like what? And he was just being such a little prick about it, and then he got, I kind of laughed. And then he goes, oh, and now it's funny. And I was like, yes, it's funny that I'm telling you I don't know what you want, and you yet I'm telling you what I have, and you're getting mad at me.

Speaker 1: 25:14

Yeah, Like you can't read his mind.

Speaker 2: 25:16

Oh my God.

Speaker 1: 25:17

Yeah.

Speaker 2: 25:17

And you're just doing a dude out there and you're just trying to get him a soda. Okay, but I don't know what you want, because you're not like explaining it to me, where you're just telling me what do you have that's non-alcoholic. This is what I have.

Speaker 1: 25:28

Because, let me say so, I've been doing this lately and you're bartender. So I'm wondering if this is the case, cause I'm like I want to, I'd like a mocktail, I'm like just be creative and I will say the bartenders, I think they enjoy doing that.

Speaker 2: 25:40

Yeah, they do, you guys are like I like making you fruity ass girlie fucking drinks.

Speaker 1: 25:45

Okay.

Speaker 2: 25:45

But if you order a mocktail, you know how to do that too with the same shit.

Speaker 1: 25:48

I'm just not gonna look at it, it's almost like they get to have fun with it because they get to do something different off of the you know the radio on the menu. They're like oh, let me be creative for her.

Speaker 2: 25:57

You know, yeah, and that's what I do, because we don't have a menu you know what I? Mean, and the guys aren't there, if they, if you ask them for a shooter, they're not going to make you some fucking fruity ass. Crazy shit that I'm going to make you.

Speaker 3: 26:07

Yeah, and you make some really good shooters. Thank you I love you.

Speaker 1: 26:10

Yeah, no, they're really good.

Speaker 3: 26:12

I wonder how many of our listeners are doing a dry January or just don't drink in general.

Speaker 2: 26:16

How many people do that? Is there like a? Can we look that up? Is there like a statistic for it?

Speaker 1: 26:21

I just know like my daughter and her friend. They're all doing it. That's why, when I was at this restaurant, you know they were going. Oh my gosh, another one January's all in many I made so many.

Speaker 2: 26:30

slow, though for bars, Because people are coming off the hall just like you, and not that they're not drinking, but they've already spent their money. They, you know they party. They got to slow down a little bit, whatever the case may be. So January is always slow anyway.

Speaker 1: 26:43

So well, and I'm kind of curious because they now have come out with drinks that give you their, their shroom drinks, their CBD drinks, and they give you like a little high buzz without the alcohol? Yep, I just looked at one. Yeah, so I'm that's, that's gonna be my next cause. I'm like again, I know you guys are gonna hear this later, but I'm on day eight and I'm like, oh, I got to change this up. I got to like taste something different, something kind of be something, yeah.

Speaker 2: 27:12

Yeah.

Speaker 3: 27:13

Yeah, yeah. So Googling this, it says dry January, right, so data showed 24% of us survey respondents were likely to participate in dry January.

Speaker 1: 27:26

However, how successful how ever people make it.

Speaker 3: 27:31

So in 2019, which was four or five years ago, they surveyed over 6,000 people and found that 86% had saved money, 81% felt more in control of their drinking, 70% were sleeping better, 67% had better concentration, 66 had more energy, 65% had generally better health and 54% had lost weight.

Speaker 2: 27:59

Of those 6,000 people, yeah, but those are high percentages. That is great. I'm staying with it.

Speaker 3: 28:05

But hold on In 2021.

Speaker 2: 28:08

She's like here's more.

Speaker 3: 28:09

This is COVID though. Okay, but Everybody's drinking COVID, it says. In 2021. Survey showed that the average American only lasted 10 days into dry January before they gave up, and one in 10 gave up by January 3rd. When it comes to sobriety in general, studies show that 75 to 95% of individuals end up relapsing even after completing alcohol treatments.

Speaker 1: 28:37

Oh, my gosh. So this is definitely gonna be a feat for me. For sure, I think you can do it. Yeah, I'm fine right now. Like I said, I got my little shrieks, got my little edibles. Are you sure you don't wanna sit the way?

Speaker 3: 28:48

away.

Speaker 1: 28:49

I'm good you know what I will say, because now I've gone through what? Basically two weekends, because I kinda came off from New Year's and then had the one weekend. It felt so good, Like I don't know, that I woke up early on a Saturday and got shit done in a long time.

Speaker 2: 29:06

Oh, you went to the gym.

Speaker 1: 29:07

Like, yeah, I went to the gym, I got shit done. I woke up I felt great, Like on a Saturday you know what I mean Like it's usually Saturday or a Sunday that I'm like, oh man, I went out last night.

Speaker 3: 29:18

I don't wanna wake up. Yeah, no, I feel the same way when you don't drink and then you wake up on a weekend. You're like wake up. Whenever you wake up and don't feel like shit, you're good.

Speaker 1: 29:27

Yeah, and you got the full day because you're not working. So you actually got this free full day to do whatever and you didn't have alcohol inhibiting you from like before.

Speaker 3: 29:36

So another thing that I'm reading it says that it's not uncommon to lose anywhere between six to 15 pounds after a month without alcohol.

Speaker 2: 29:45

Hallelujah, hallelujah. I haven't even drank that much. How could that work for me?

Speaker 3: 29:50

Please take into consideration your weight in your age and how you've treated your diet and exercise since you stopped drinking.

Speaker 1: 29:57

Yeah, but you tend to or at least me, because I'm doing this you tend to want to be healthier because you're not drinking.

Speaker 2: 30:05

Yeah, Does that make sense?

Speaker 1: 30:07

If.

Speaker 2: 30:07

I'm doing this for my body. I could do this for my body.

Speaker 1: 30:09

Well, and again, like they're saying I do have more energy, yeah. So I'm like, yeah, I'll go. I went with my daughter to the gym. I don't usually go to the gym on the weekends, you know what I mean. But I went and so and then I'm like, oh, I'm having water and so I don't know. I want it because, like, if I have a glass of wine, like I'll have white wine, I want some chicken or I want a steak, or I'll have chocolate with red wine, whatever. If I'm having water, like I'll tend to have a salad, like for whatever reason you know what I mean.

Speaker 2: 30:37

I don't know mentally what's going on Like you're trying to be healthier all around Like if I'm gonna do this, I might as well do this. Yeah, but not even truly trying to think about it just doing it, it's just instinctual for some reason, to make you feel healthier. I don't know.

Speaker 3: 30:52

Well to all of our listeners. I hope everybody made it through the month, because when this airs it will be the 30th.

Speaker 2: 30:57

I hope you made it. You mean all our dry January listeners?

Speaker 3: 30:59

Yeah, Well, I mean, yeah, I mean, or whatever. Or now they feel bad about themselves, right, or?

Speaker 2: 31:05

whatever, what is it? New Year's resolution people made.

Speaker 3: 31:09

But I think if you wake up hungover on January 1st like, are you really going to make it through the month? Did you wake up hungover, misty?

Speaker 1: 31:19

On January 1st.

Speaker 2: 31:20

I did Wait, you're saying if they wake up hungover, they're not gonna make it through the month?

Speaker 3: 31:24

I mean, did you drink at like 1 am on New Year's?

Speaker 1: 31:26

Day. Yeah, I stayed up till.

Speaker 2: 31:28

I gotcha.

Speaker 1: 31:28

I stayed up till 4 am.

Speaker 3: 31:29

Okay, so you were drinking till 4 am in the new year. Yeah, so it really wasn't a dry January. You might as well just give up, yeah.

Speaker 2: 31:38

No, but if I go, longer If I go devil on your shoulder over there, fuck If.

Speaker 1: 31:42

I go longer to Super Bowl, like I want to, then you'll have went over the month.

Speaker 2: 31:47

Yeah, yeah.

Speaker 3: 31:48

See, I think drinking for me is a social thing. I mean, neither one of you guys are drinking.

Speaker 2: 31:52

I'm drinking tea, so I'm the alcoholic tonight.

Speaker 3: 31:55

Yes, God, but that's because I bought a couple bottles of wine for over here I usually would be partaking in the festivities. So, yeah, I don't know. I mean I should probably jump on that bandwagon. Usually last year I was like, oh, I'm not gonna do. I didn't do a lot for the first four months. This year I feel like I have nonstop things going on for the next year.

Speaker 1: 32:18

Yeah, no, I mean it's definitely from their stats. You know the percentages. Yeah, it's definitely a good thing to throw out there and try, and I mean it doesn't have to be January, you know Any month. Yeah, so for me, because I did think about that right, I was like I really don't have anything going because you don't have shit going on January, the kind of the next big thing is Super Bowl.

Speaker 2: 32:38

Right.

Speaker 1: 32:38

But where? If you look at the months, there's like something every damn month. Right, you got Valentine's and you got St Paddy's, then you got Easter, easter is March 31st this year. Oh, that's weird.

Speaker 2: 32:49

Yeah, I did not know that. Yeah, but then you go into April and it's fucking big hat and rodeo.

Speaker 3: 32:53

Yeah, and then it's hot girl summer.

Speaker 2: 32:55

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 32:56

You got Mother's Day and then you've got, yeah, boats and lakes and shit like that. Yeah, I feel like there's never a good time, except for January. So I was like I'm fucking gonna do it.

Speaker 3: 33:06

Can you still have a hot girl summer? If you're like booed up, yeah, if you're looking at me, bitch, are you going to Miami?

Speaker 1: 33:17

Well, I'm going on the cruise. Oh, that's right, that's right, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. So I'm her birthday.

Speaker 3: 33:23

Yeah Right, yeah, that's gonna be fine. I'm so excited.

Speaker 1: 33:26

I've got Scott still planned in March in a starting spring training.

Speaker 3: 33:31

Yeah, maybe you meet somebody there I mean I wouldn't mind it.

Speaker 1: 33:34

you know baseball player, let's go.

Speaker 3: 33:37

So let's kind of switch this up. We have our bowls sitting here with our little papers in here, so we can pick a topic. Maybe we can end this podcast with a topic. All right, let's do it.

Speaker 2: 33:50

Who wants to pick, I'll pick. I'm closest, it's my house.

Speaker 1: 33:53

Go Nikki, go Nikki. By the way, we meet at either Nikki's house or my house to chat with y'all, and soon we want to do video, but then that means we have to get ready, yeah.

Speaker 3: 34:03

Yeah, and I really showered at four o'clock. Someone said we needed a ring light.

Speaker 2: 34:08

We can feel like this light is really bright, though yeah, we don't want this light.

Speaker 3: 34:12

We need lights from all angles. Lighting matters.

Speaker 1: 34:16

Even like a pink light, like a soft light, might be needed.

Speaker 2: 34:18

This has a softer light on it.

Speaker 1: 34:20

Yeah, maybe.

Speaker 3: 34:22

But, we need it from all angles. Anyway, we all, need our own ring light.

Speaker 2: 34:27

I picked up one that was mine, which is great. Dating red flags and deal breakers, oh we were just talking about that.

Speaker 3: 34:35

Who wants to start with this one? Red flags.

Speaker 2: 34:39

It was red flags. And what Deal breakers? Deal breakers, what is a red flag for me? I'm going to say something, so fucking.

Speaker 1: 34:47

No.

Speaker 2: 34:47

I'm not going to say, say it, I'll go, because I'm off the tip.

Speaker 1: 34:51

I can't do a smoker.

Speaker 2: 34:53

I say no, oh yeah, I used to smoke and I can't do that yeah.

Speaker 3: 34:56

No, so it's funny that you say that. So when I date, you know, and I'm like, tell me something that you think I wouldn't like about you. And so they say and they're like, well, what is it? I'm like I smoke, oh, so that's how I, that's how she breaks the ice, that's how I break the ice. I mean, I definitely smoke more when I'm drinking yeah and I know it's a nasty habit and it stinks, but I've been smoking yeah Forever and it is a.

Speaker 1: 35:27

That eliminated men that you dated because of it. Nope, oh OK, interesting Nope.

Speaker 3: 35:32

Yeah, it hasn't.

Speaker 1: 35:33

I mean, I've had a lot of guys that say no smokers. You know what I mean.

Speaker 3: 35:36

So yeah, yeah, I mean I haven't, I haven't had that issue. I mean Stephen doesn't drink and I don't even. I don't like to smoke around. He doesn't drink. I mean, he doesn't.

Speaker 1: 35:46

So I was like you're the guy that doesn't drink, but he doesn't?

Speaker 3: 35:50

He's on a heavy drinker, though, okay.

Speaker 2: 35:52

He's on a heavy drinker.

Speaker 3: 35:52

But he knows that I smoke, especially when I'm drinking. So I'm like can I smoke a Sarah right now?

Speaker 1: 35:58

Do you do it near him or do you go out like walk outside?

Speaker 3: 36:01

or get away from him, but he'll go with me or what.

Speaker 2: 36:03

Oh, ok, he doesn't care I feel like you're like me, though, like when you come in from, like when we're here sitting at the table and you go outside to smoke. I don't feel like you smell like smoke when you come in and I don't feel like I ever smelled like smoke, but there was a lot of people that I would, you know, go out with or come in the bar or whatever, and they come in and they fucking smell like they're a whole goddamn ash tray dude.

Speaker 3: 36:21

That's because they're not washing their clothes. It's fucking gross.

Speaker 1: 36:25

Yeah.

Speaker 2: 36:25

I'm just saying, even just being outside smoking, like Does it matter the type?

Speaker 1: 36:28

of cigarette, like if it's a filter or not. I don't know, I think it probably does, and the wind direction?

Speaker 2: 36:34

Yeah, like what do you smoke lights?

Speaker 3: 36:37

No, I like menthols, but they don't sell those anymore. Ok.

Speaker 2: 36:40

Wait, they don't. Yeah, as of Janet.

Speaker 3: 36:42

I think it was last year. Last year, yeah, janet.

Speaker 2: 36:45

Why? Why, because of what's in it.

Speaker 3: 36:48

Well, no, it's not that. It's because the kids and all the vaping and oh yeah, nothing flavored, nothing flavored.

Speaker 1: 36:54

It's flavored, yeah, and I'm like really.

Speaker 3: 36:57

Menthols have been around forever.

Speaker 2: 36:59

Yeah, I used to smoke camel crushes.

Speaker 3: 37:01

Yeah, so that's why I like they do sell these cards, though, that you can put in your cigarette packs. You can them at the smoke shop, and they do make your cigarettes like menthols.

Speaker 2: 37:09

Let's see, I wouldn't like that, though, because I didn't like all of them, so then yet they eliminated menthols, but now they have that.

Speaker 1: 37:13

What that makes zero sense Menthol cards.

Speaker 3: 37:15

They're not great, they're not.

Speaker 2: 37:17

Yeah, but what's weird is they sell flavored fucking THC.

Speaker 3: 37:24

No, they don't anymore. Nothing flavored when. Oh yeah, In my purse.

Speaker 1: 37:28

Yeah, you just eat chocolate, thc you said oh yeah, yeah, thc yeah.

Speaker 2: 37:35

She ate chocolate. But I'm saying I have a pen, or whatever you want to call it, and it's strawberry kiwi. It tastes delicious.

Speaker 3: 37:41

Is that negative?

Speaker 2: 37:42

No, it's THC no it's THC.

Speaker 3: 37:44

See they're supposed to be. I don't, I don't understand it makes zero sense right.

Speaker 2: 37:48

But, I what you said is true, because I know they quit, so I get it. I know you're right, 100%, but that's what I'm saying. It just now dawned on me like I have this flavored fucking smoke and it's it's strawberry, I mean.

Speaker 3: 37:58

I know where to get mental cigarettes, but it is more expensive. Okay, and cigarettes are already there, illegal.

Speaker 1: 38:07

So I was buying a legal cigarette back in the day Like 20 when I was in my 20s. When I drank, I would sometimes smoke too, and they'd be a mental like I would want you know what I mean.

Speaker 2: 38:16

It was like fresh. It's like cigars. Yeah.

Speaker 1: 38:20

Like I could have, like a pack of, and then they came out with misty cigarettes.

Speaker 2: 38:23

I was even cooler. I don't know.

Speaker 1: 38:25

Yeah, I mean how could miss you, not have a misty? But but the whole thing would last me like a year.

Speaker 2: 38:32

Yeah, like seriously. Yeah, she's gonna share them. Do you need a cigarette? I know my own brand.

Speaker 3: 38:38

Okay, so that, okay. So smoking is your deal breaker. Yeah, what is a red flag?

Speaker 1: 38:44

Well, I'll just go with because it was so recent. It's off the top of my head, but I was on a date guy sitting across from me and proceed to say, does you get along with your ex? And he just went off on just negativity and said really like just crude comments about her and her sister, you know saying words like whore and fat, and just the degrading, degrading. And I'm thinking to myself. If you're saying this on a first date, then this is there's far worse going on.

Speaker 2: 39:14

Oh yeah, for sure, right, if you think this is okay.

Speaker 1: 39:16

Yeah, so immediately. And what's crazy is the date was going good, so I'd say the whole date lasted two and a half hours, cause we went to dinner for first hour, good, and then that happened and drinking, and then he was, he was drinking and I wasn't, I was doing my drag January. How many drinks did he have? He had beers and he had probably, at that point, four. So he was Phil, you know you know, but that goes to show me, though, you don't need the degrade women.

Speaker 1: 39:47

No, I wouldn't want to be around you. Like God, how worse do you get when you drink? Like really like maybe you get physical and shit. Who?

Speaker 2: 39:56

knows right, and that's funny that you said that because I was married to two men that were abusive to me and after the first one didn't learn my lesson but should have. But after the first one I had to go the Marjorie Mazen Center. Like he beat me up, like gave me a black eye, like he went to jail, like I was fucked up. But I remember, I'll never, ever forget what the lady said there. She was like never date someone or be in a relationship with someone that talks bad about their mother, their ex or their sister. Yeah, because that is the kind of man that will degrade you talk about. You say that you know and it could lead to worse.

Speaker 3: 40:32

Cause those are the three closest women to a man.

Speaker 1: 40:33

Right, yeah, I've always remembered that, especially your fucking mom, yeah.

Speaker 2: 40:36

Like, come on, yeah, and the first one, he talks so shitty about his mom, and the second one did too. So it's like, but I didn't realize the second one until after we were already married, like, but that's the same thing that happened with the first one.

Speaker 3: 40:48

Yeah.

Speaker 2: 40:49

Like it was the love bombing, the courtship, the whole you know. And then you get married and then all of a sudden I'm like who the fuck did I marry? Like what the fuck really?

Speaker 3: 40:58

Yeah.

Speaker 2: 40:58

Both of them. Yeah, I could have married the same person twice, okay.

Speaker 1: 41:02

So with this being, said do you feel like what red flags were prior to the marriage that you could have seen and not gone down those roads?

Speaker 3: 41:11

Well pointed.

Speaker 2: 41:12

Yeah, like, like that, yeah, yeah, yeah. So it actually like it's sort of like a like the first one, he, he wasn't even allowed over at his mom's house while we were dating he lived with his grandma.

Speaker 3: 41:26

So that should have been a red flag right there. Okay, the see the ladies listen. Yeah yeah, serious thing, it's a problem.

Speaker 2: 41:35

The second one was just so like I don't want to use the word controlling but like was in a hurry and I had been so, marry you. Yes, I had been single for 20 years.

Speaker 1: 41:47

So you have dates in there. I have dates. You know I live with guys.

Speaker 2: 41:51

You know things went on, but for 20 years I was not married to someone. Yeah, yeah, and I mean, yes, I was in committed relationships, but it was just, it was so fast and so, just like you know, it was a whirlwind and if I could go back and look at it like I, I'm not happy about that. Yeah, yeah, and those should have been red flags.

Speaker 1: 42:13

So which is crazy, because my kid's dad and we were together 14 years. He proposed six weeks after we met.

Speaker 3: 42:18

Yeah, you were quick with both of your marriages.

Speaker 2: 42:21

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 42:22

So see, it doesn't always work out like the way, yeah, but they both are very good men, yeah, and so I'm really great with my kid's dad. He just had his own stuff and we weren't a good match. And then that was really great with Ken. You know till death do his part. So those did go quick, so those could be a red flag, but I think so you're saying it's me.

Speaker 1: 42:43

No, I'm thinking. No, what I'm thinking is maybe correlating. Is he quick? And then there's these other things that you're seeing, like maybe bad mouthing women or aggression stuff.

Speaker 2: 42:55

I probably just wasn't paying attention. Yeah, I mean, and I don't know what made him any more special than the guy that I dated, you know, at my 10 year single mark, like that guy wanted to marry me. I had a ring, like we. He was from Mississippi, he was very nice, he loved his mom, he was good to his sister, but they're just. I fell out of love with him. I just it just happened. You know what I mean and I don't know what you pick bad boys, oh maybe therapy session yeah.

Speaker 2: 43:22

Maybe I, probably, I definitely picked the wrong guy, but because I was like, other guy was nice and then he was.

Speaker 3: 43:29

We were together for a while, you know but did you get married right away or engaged right away for but so? Maybe first what about you? Did you get married? You got engaged right away and married right away, or?

Speaker 1: 43:42

yeah, I mean he proposed on New Year's Eve. I was pregnant with Tatum and found out end of March, and so we moved up the wedding wedding date, because we set a date and then we got married in July.

Speaker 3: 43:55

So seven months? Yeah, okay, what about you?

Speaker 2: 43:58

It was less than a year both of them.

Speaker 3: 44:00

Yeah, I'm good with being engaged for a little bit, but I feel like being engaged is just like giving you a promise Like this is what I want with you, I agree. I don't need to get married right away, but I want to know that you're committed.

Speaker 1: 44:15

So what's your length of time? Like, how long do you think it's a good length of time to be engaged? See, I really at least a year, a year, I mean.

Speaker 3: 44:23

I will not move in with somebody unless I have that for sure, because I'm comfortable how I need to be and if I don't know you within 18 months. For me I feel like if we have any real issues in six months and that we can't work through, you're not my person. I think six months is a good, I agree.

Speaker 1: 44:46

I agree, I think the honeymoon at six months you start seeing out of the honeymoon and then if you're still doing good, right, you got a year that you've dated and then if they propose, then you do that another year. I think that's good. I like that timeframe.

Speaker 3: 45:03

Not the time frame matter, but I don't want to be five years and like am I? Is he going to propose? Like no motherfucker, like I'm gone?

Speaker 1: 45:13

Yeah, my daughter dealt with that with her fiance, but they're younger as well At our age. It's different Right Age matters, because when you're young you can wait you know what I mean.

Speaker 3: 45:21

You get older like building together.

Speaker 1: 45:23

Yeah, and you're get older and you're like shit, we don't got time, Don't waste my time.

Speaker 3: 45:28

I see you want to say something.

Speaker 2: 45:30

I've just I've never been with anyone. I've only been with one person for longer than two years.

Speaker 3: 45:36

Even married. Wait, wait. You've never been with anybody longer than two years. I'm mind boggled. Right now, what?

Speaker 1: 45:44

Okay, do you tell?

Speaker 2: 45:46

I've never been with anyone longer than two. Everyone says I have like a two year thing, except for one guy. There was one guy and we dated longer than two years and we tried to get back together and I really believe he's like the love of my life, how long were him and I together? Yeah, I think it was like four years off and on but see off and on.

Speaker 1: 46:05

So how much solid, more than two years.

Speaker 2: 46:08

Okay, so you, you went past because it was always me doing the breaking up. Like this guy it was him, he. He broke up with me and then we got back together and then we tried I was going to move for him and then just stuff went on and then but like I, I'm pretty sure I told her he's like the love of my life, he's like I love him. I will never love anyone the way I love him.

Speaker 1: 46:30

Where is?

Speaker 2: 46:30

he, he's in the state.

Speaker 1: 46:34

I wanted to say is he married?

Speaker 2: 46:38

He's married.

Speaker 3: 46:39

Oh for sure, though, is he for sure married.

Speaker 2: 46:41

For sure married.

Speaker 1: 46:42

Oh well, you got to get you, got to get past that one, yeah, Well, and it's like how do you do that?

Speaker 3: 46:49

That's a good question.

Speaker 1: 46:50

No, it is a good question, though, because, like, holding on it sucks it really fucking sucks, and like and you're right, it's like, how do you let go? Like, you know what I mean when you're holding on it to break you of that. It's like what? When do you break? Or do you ever break? You know what I'm saying? Like? So my thought is you don't, unless somebody else comes around.

Speaker 2: 47:18

That Trump's, that, that Trump's over that there's never been anyone that trumped over that. Yeah, that's the thing.

Speaker 1: 47:25

That's the hard part. But you're not a good picker either. You've had these. Yeah, was he a good picker? Was that guy that you're still in love with? Is he a good? Was he a good one? He's a good man, oh God, do you feel like? Because you still have a love for him? This is therapy, because I'm I, this is what I talk about my shit. Okay, when I go see my Alex, do you feel like you, purposely, are sabotaging because you haven't let go?

Speaker 2: 47:52

of him. No, I feel like it's kind of the same thing as you, except your husband was taken from you. This is like I want that, or better. Do you know what I'm saying?

Speaker 1: 48:01

And so that or better is not out there.

Speaker 3: 48:03

That's her standard, yeah.

Speaker 2: 48:05

Yeah, I agree with that. He treated me well. He was respectful, he was a gentleman, he was the kind of guy that we could dance in the kitchen. You know, I could wear his shirt and we were in there just laughing and having a good time. We could make dinner together, we could and you haven't found that yet.

Speaker 1: 48:19

No, exactly. Yeah, and I agree it's hard yeah.

Speaker 2: 48:23

He took care of me in every way, yeah.

Speaker 1: 48:26

Which we. That's what we deserve. Right Like, why even go for less? Yeah, no way.

Speaker 3: 48:31

Okay, so no abusiveness, no shit talking on the women.

Speaker 2: 48:35

Right the red. Yeah, that's the red flag. Yeah, what's?

Speaker 3: 48:37

your, yeah, what's yours? My red flag is I Don't want to feel. I feel like I have a good intuition. So I, once I feel that you're lying to me or not being honest, like cuz. Lying and not being honest are two different things. Because you can not say something right, yeah, but it's being dishonest, yeah. So Once I automatically get that feeling, I shut off. Yeah, you need to be. I want to have the choice to choose Whether or not I like what you're doing or not doing. That is For me, that is my choice, and I don't want something to take that away from. What do you give?

Speaker 1: 49:19

me an example. I know exactly what she's talking about, though, because I was gonna say to you that Sometimes people, they go that route because they don't want to lose you, or they have fear or you know what I mean or they're insecure with themselves, do you know?

Speaker 3: 49:36

I'm saying, even you could just have my friendship or whatever it may be, and you don't want to be completely honest with me about your situation and this isn't regarding anybody in my current life but I got you this. You're not being completely honest with me, so you're not giving me the option to choose what I want. So I have yeah, I have to decide whether or not I want to Continue being your friend, to see where this goes or not. You know.

Speaker 1: 50:09

I see what you're saying. You're like wait, that's not up for you to decide.

Speaker 3: 50:12

Yeah, that's for you to decide.

Speaker 1: 50:14

Yeah, but what I'm saying in their defense this is like totally devil's advocate, right, but in their defense, because I've been in that situation, you know, and I've hurt somebody, and I didn't mean to hurt somebody, but I was in fear of losing them, or you know what I mean. Like you just eliminate Certain things, so then it does come across as dishonest, right, right, but it's because you know. You know you've got insecurities or you don't know how they're gonna react, and so you're like protecting the relationship. You know what I'm saying, not that that's okay, it's not okay.

Speaker 3: 50:55

I, yeah, I'm on Sheila got her. Sheila when still I got her group back. I did the same thing to somebody. So but at the same time I was still being honest like this isn't gonna go anywhere, but I would still kind of mold what I want, what I wanted at the time, you know.

Speaker 1: 51:12

Yeah, just because I was getting my feet wet yeah, well, I mean, and and I've been in situations where it wasn't about like Not being transparent where I stand with, with where I am in my heart, but more like you know, I might have did something and If they caught wind of it it would really piss them off. You know what I mean. But I was really innocent about it, right, but I so I know I'm like my bad fuck.

Speaker 3: 51:38

They wouldn't have liked that.

Speaker 1: 51:39

Yeah, they were like that and I don't, but it was innocent. It was, it was very innocent, but it's gonna make them mad and they're sensitive because I'm not a sensitive person. I'm learning this and but I tend to go for sensitive men and and it's, it's been tough. It's been tough and I'm learning how to like More coddle, a sensitive man, because I love sense. I like a good guy, I don't like the bad guys, I like a good guy and I love a sensitive man. I want a man to cry, you know. Shed your tears, baby, you know. But when you do have that kind of man in your life, you could hurt their feelings easy. You know what I mean. So I'm trying to be better like. My daughter is actually so she's so amazing to you, so amazing. She's 25 years old and she knows her fiance so well, like she's like I go. Why don't you say that she's like no mom, that's not how I can say to Michael. You know he, he doesn't.

Speaker 3: 52:34

Listen to this.

Speaker 1: 52:35

No, but, but he doesn't. You know, he's a guy, young guy, um. But you know she says you know, no, he doesn't operate in that way, like he needs his space and then Sure, he doesn't operate in that way.

Speaker 1: 52:51

Yes 25 years old to understand that understand that, and I'm like 50 just now. Understand, right, I know I tell all the time you're an old soul, you're so mature, I've learned from you. Please teach me the ways. Yeah, it's so good, but yeah, so I know what you're saying. Because then you're you're not being fully transparent, you're not being transparent See is key. It's so key. Yeah, and really, at the end of the day, when you are transparent, you can't go wrong.

Speaker 3: 53:20

Right, you cannot take it or leave it, you can't, and if they leave it, they're not for you, you know, learn that.

Speaker 1: 53:29

I know I mean it's. We need to learn it before it happens.

Speaker 3: 53:33

Well, I used to say I wish I knew then what I know now. And losing my husband, I Got to live, love and learn, and so now I know what I want and expect yes you know and so, but it took me a long time to get there. Yes, I'm not mad at my situation. Situation life happens for me the way I think it needs to happen.

Speaker 1: 54:01

Yes, and we sure we should learn from everything from our past. That's what it's there for, right? And? And I try to look at things like when we're talking about. You know, we don't want to be the victims in our traumas, right? I don't ever want to look at the be the victim. I want to look at it as, okay, I'm strong enough, yeah, and that should happen. Okay, so it happens. So what did I learn from that? I must have, it must have been put on me to learn something.

Speaker 3: 54:26

You know, no matter what it was good, bad ugly.

Speaker 1: 54:29

It's meant for me to learn something, and you know, either teach others or move on from it. Whatever it is, everything is a lesson. Everything is a lesson.

Speaker 3: 54:37

So I will tell you one of my pet peeves, because that's I mean red flag, whatever. Yeah, no, it's a good I got a pet peeve. I don't like dirty clothes on the fucking ground. Yeah, I don't like that either. I'm like I get my laundry basket is right by my shower door. I Take off my clothes, I put them in there. If I somehow just like put them on the floor, I get out and I brought me to up and I put them in the hamper. If it's something I may wear again that I barely wore, I put it somewhere else, but not on the fucking floor, I agree.

Speaker 1: 55:08

Yeah, what about you guys? But see, you said pet peeve. This is where I see a difference, though because red cuz, we red flags are like oops, red flag, I'm not going there. And and and deal breakers are you just don't go there, right? Pet peeve is to me you might be with a guy and you're so into him Damn, we put some clothes on the floor.

Speaker 1: 55:30

So it's gonna be a little tiff with you guys, but you're not gonna give up on them. You're gonna like fuck. This is my pet peeve. It's like chewing with your mouth open.

Speaker 3: 55:38

You know I mean a good guy. He'll listen exactly exactly cuz he wants my eyes and he wants you to be happy.

Speaker 3: 55:44

Yeah, we want to make each other happy in a good relationship, right, yeah, well, ladies, I think we should wrap up this podcast. Let's do it. So how do you want to end it? We didn't do a heat and wave last time you weren't here. We did these Q&A's was we're super fun. Maybe we should do that again with you, but I just, I mean, I don't really oh good, a chance to contradict myself, cuz I won't have the same answers. Who cares are we.

Speaker 2: 56:15

I feel like you ebb and flow you know, yeah, it's your feelings change and like it's like something that I posted the other day that was about you know, you can't, don't, don't get mad at me, because, like I'm not a hypocrite because I do something now that I wouldn't have done before. I do things differently, like I'm just different now.

Speaker 3: 56:33

Yeah, we're forever evolving, right. That's really what it comes down to, I think. So I don't. I don't really have a heat and wave. I just wish everybody a happy new year. I hope everybody had a good first month and I'm thankful I.

Speaker 2: 56:50

Will do. I Think I do this all the time, but it's just because I can see the good and the bad and things I'm gonna do a heat and a wave together. So my heat is I woke up One day last week to a text from one of my friends telling me that she's fighting with some other friends and now she's done with me too because I'm not her friend. I she tried to tell me something and I didn't listen. And so now, because I didn't listen, I'm not her friend. But what she was trying to do was get me mad at the other friend and the other friend and I had a falling out and we had went and eaten and had a adult conversation when we decided we're gonna squash this from here and just move forward. And that's what we did.

Speaker 2: 57:30

Whether this girl called me a bitch, a cunt of whatever she fucking called me before this happened, I'm not saying she did, but if she did I don't care, because we started our friendship all over again that day sitting there in that restaurant, so cool. So my, that was my heat and I guess my wave is that Really, you really do Change and evolve and you really have to think to yourself like it's okay that that person is in friends with me. They weren't for me like they weren't for me. You know what I mean.

Speaker 2: 58:01

And our friendships do evolve too, and yes, absolutely but this person was being very hypocritical and even though I say it's okay at some points because you change or whatever, she was being a hypocrite by calling me to talk trash about. A girl was talking trash.

Speaker 1: 58:16

You know what I'm saying it was in the moment.

Speaker 2: 58:17

She was being hypocritical. Yeah, not that so yeah, and then went on to block me on Facebook or husband block me to whatever. Hey, we're like 15 again I tried to chime in and say something nice like, okay, we all have like good intentions, because she went on Facebook and she guys some shit.

Speaker 3: 58:35

I said. I said, what the fuck? Oh, you're friends with her too.

Speaker 2: 58:38

No. I thought I she commented and it was like all crazy, like you're this and you're that and you're jealous and you're and I'm like what I try because I don't?

Speaker 3: 58:48

you haven't seen it yet. No, I never will, because it's got erased, yeah, and I'm like what the well she screenshot.

Speaker 2: 58:54

Yeah.

Speaker 3: 58:56

You did because I'm like and I tried to comment like trying to diffuse, yeah, the whole situation because, first of all, leave your shit off, fucking Facebook. Yeah, people post fuck, if a, if it don't apply, let it fucking fly. Yeah, that's my whole motto on the whole social media thing people post shit.

Speaker 1: 59:14

You have no idea what is fucking going on in someone's life, dude, and you actually share things a lot, just cuz I think it's funny, or what are you doing and I share?

Speaker 3: 59:22

so maybe I related to it 10 years. Yeah, it doesn't even apply right now.

Speaker 2: 59:26

Yeah, I post something that's like oh my god, what a downer. Well, maybe I'm fucking now that I went to McDonald's and they didn't have the fucking McRib anymore. Maybe like today I fucking have to get in a fight with Verizon again.

Speaker 2: 59:39

Verizon yeah, I could be talking about fucking anything, but people read it and they're like and I'm just thinking, if you fucking think everything I post is about you, you are so fucking sadly mistaken dude. I'm probably posting about same in random nonsense, like my fucking thing is dirty now and I gotta wash it.

Speaker 3: 59:57

The chap's a killer dude.

Speaker 2: 59:58

Yeah, it's, I'm so just. You guys know me. We're not friends, but you guys know me, I'm very like. Oh my god, is that a squirrel over there?

Speaker 1: 1:00:08

You know what I mean.

Speaker 2: 1:00:08

It's like I start talking about something and then there's something else that's bothering me.

Speaker 3: 1:00:13

That's why I say if it don't apply, let it fly. You took everything that you saw on your friend's feet, and that's how this girl was fucking taking everything too, and I'm just like girl.

Speaker 2: 1:00:21

This wasn't even about you, it wasn't about anything, it wasn't about anyone. You just went nuts for no reason. Yeah.

Speaker 1: 1:00:29

And you know what In her defense. I don't even know this girl. I haven't seen the post. We don't know what's going on in their fucking day either.

Speaker 2: 1:00:35

You know what I mean? That's like everybody's got their own shit. I keep saying to myself I feel bad for her yeah, but at the end of the day she's mad at me. Yeah, but I feel bad for her because I feel like something must be going on in her life, because we've been friends for a long time and she's acting crazy right now.

Speaker 3: 1:00:49

Yeah.

Speaker 2: 1:00:50

It's whatever.

Speaker 3: 1:00:51

If it don't apply, let it fly.

Speaker 2: 1:00:52

I know yeah.

Speaker 1: 1:00:53

Misty. Ok, so my heat's going to be. Are we trying to?

Speaker 2: 1:00:56

trademark that or something right now? Yeah, hashtag.

Speaker 3: 1:01:00

What am I? Don't apply Let it fly. Actually.

Speaker 1: 1:01:05

Hashtag it. So actually my heat's going to go, because from the beginning of our conversation we were talking about the Stanley cups. When it dawned on me it was like oh my god, because I was thinking how stupid these long lines. But you know what I'm going to say it? This is the problem with people that do this shit. It drives the prices up of every fucking thing, and so then it makes it unattainable and you can't get it when you just want it. To want it, yeah, absolutely. So it's so fucking annoying.

Speaker 2: 1:01:32

Yeah, I just want to pink up to drink out of it.

Speaker 1: 1:01:34

Drink out of fucking trophies, I just want to look pretty, I know, and so now, if you wanted that, you might have to spend $1,000. So that rubs me so wrong and people can be so fucking money hungry and it just takes away from what it is. It's like going back to when the moms were ripping cabbage patch out of people's hands yeah. And making a mess in these toy stores. It's ridiculous.

Speaker 3: 1:02:01

Going to jail on Christmas Eve night, yeah.

Speaker 1: 1:02:04

Heat, heat, heat. Guys, calm it down. My wave is going to be I've been doing good with Dry January and I'm going to stick with it.

Speaker 3: 1:02:11

You have to now and I loved those percentages even more.

Speaker 1: 1:02:15

That gave me the pump. Yeah those were high, very high. I didn't look it up, so yeah, anybody else wants to jump on this and wants to comment that maybe you're going to do it now too, because you heard all this? Please do. We want to hear the feedback.

Speaker 3: 1:02:29

And don't give up, Even if it's obviously this. You're not going to hear this till the end of January. You can do it in February, March, April.

Speaker 2: 1:02:36

Doesn't matter when, absolutely.

Speaker 3: 1:02:37

If you feel that you need to take control of that situation, for whatever reason it is, do it.

Speaker 2: 1:02:45

Whatever set, but since this does end at the end of March, if anyone, no, it's January.

Speaker 3: 1:02:51

I'm sorry she's not drinking. It's January.

Speaker 2: 1:02:53

I'm not, I just had some edibles. Don't worry If they are listening to this at the end of January, please comment and let us know if you did a dry January and how it worked out.

Speaker 1: 1:03:03

And if you succeeded, yeah.

Speaker 2: 1:03:04

If you lost weight what were the perks? From it Losing weight, clearer, more concentration.

Speaker 3: 1:03:10

Yeah, sleeping better Sleep, better sleep yeah.

Speaker 2: 1:03:12

If you had any of those things happen, I would love to, and you don't have to comment publicly.

Speaker 3: 1:03:16

You can DM us, any one of us and we're not going to share anybody's business that doesn't want to be shared, right? So if you want to be anonymous, say hey, I'm being anonymous, we're good with that.

Speaker 1: 1:03:28

Or if you want to share your story and say I don't mind you shout out my name, we'll do that too.

Speaker 3: 1:03:31

And maybe you can come on and record with us and tell us about your dry January, February, March. Whatever it may be, Love it yeah.

Speaker 1: 1:03:39

All right, you guys All right. So we Roger that, Roger that, roger that.