24. Solitary Contemplations and Social Media's Double Edged Sword (Guest Carly)

Have you ever felt the urge to just chuck your phone into a lake and live in the moment? Well, Carly, our birthday guest and Jackson's sweetheart, gets real about her love-hate relationship with social media. Tune in as she bares her soul about the pressure cooker of online personas and the toll it takes on her sense of self. We laugh, we commiserate, and we look back on how our generation's memory-keeping ways on the internet differ vastly from the curated galleries of today's youth. Carly's candid sharing of a personal, eye-opening story also serves as a crucial reminder about the often-overlooked dangers of oversharing.

Life can throw curveballs that leave you either knocked out or ready to catch the next pitch. We unravel the threads of life's fabric, from the accountability we hold to others, to the liberating yet intimidating dance with solitude. Carly stays on board as we navigate through her transformative journey from high school to college, and the tentative steps she's taking toward a nursing career amidst unprecedented times. We also indulge in the lighter side of life, confessing the most hilarious excuses we've ever concocted to skip out on plans.

Ending on a note of unfettered joy and a call to genuine individuality, we champion the art of being unapologetically oneself. Our "Heat Waves" segment strikes a chord, sharing both the thorns and blooms of our weekly experiences. We giggle, we groan, but most importantly, we embrace the message: be true to who you are and love fiercely and freely. And, just before we sign off, I can't resist sharing my deep-seated love affair with the magic that is Arm & Hammer Magic Erasers - because sometimes, it's the small victories in the battle against domestic chaos that make all the difference.

Chapters

• 0:00 Social Media Influences on Relationships
• 10:42 Navigating Life's Challenges and Self-Discovery
• 19:53 Embrace Yourself, Ignore Critics
• 25:19 Obsession With Arm Hammer Magic Erasers

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

Hey everyone, welcome back to Small Town Big Mouths. This is Misty aka Dolce, and we're excited to have you for another episode.

Speaker 2: 0:09

And this is Amber, your one and only. And today we have a birthday girl. Her name is Carly. Welcome to the table. Please tell us who you are.

Speaker 3: 0:22

So I am actually dating Misty's son. So I am Jackson's girlfriend.

Speaker 1: 0:27

Yes, officially been a girl for almost a year now.

Speaker 3: 0:31

I know It'll be a year next month, not even a month away, actually, right after Tatum's big day. That is awesome, I know, but it feels like it's been forever. I feel like I've known you guys forever. This is my second birthday with you guys.

Speaker 2: 0:49

You're definitely part of the family. I know I love it. How sweet. So I'm just going to get into this. I have a few questions. Um, once I knew that you were going to um join us tonight. Um, so my first question is how has social media influenced your life and relationships? And before you answer that, can you tell our listeners how old you are?

Speaker 2: 1:04

so I'm 22, 22 today yes, so these are some questions that I think are good, um just based on because you you've grown up in social media oh yeah, and we haven't.

Speaker 1: 1:15

So you're like a new generation to our mic right now so I will say I don't.

Speaker 3: 1:20

Honestly, if I could which I can't, but if I could delete social media completely out of my life, I 100% would. I will say there also, there is like good aspects to social media I'm not going to lie Like it's great for communicating or seeing what people are up to family, all that good stuff. But I will say I mean I've had what Snapchat since I was like 12.

Speaker 3: 1:42

Instagram since I was like 13. So that's all I grew up seeing and I will say I mean it hasn't had a great effect on me. Like I, you know I have big insecurities and I will say that a lot of it does come from social media. I love to compare myself to other people, like it's not, it's just.

Speaker 1: 2:03

Wait, do you love to compare? Or you just find yourself doing it? I find myself doing, because it's just there 100.

Speaker 3: 2:09

I mean, you open up instagram and the first thing you see is a picture of a half-naked girl yeah that has like the prettiest body, prettiest face. Like, of course I'm gonna sit there and compare myself. You know that's the first thing I'm seeing especially. You know you wake up in the morning, the first thing you do is get on your phone. Imagine you wake up, that's the first thing you're seeing. Like that's going to play a huge role in my mood throughout the day.

Speaker 1: 2:30

Yeah, and I think for us, because we are older, kind of been there, done that, like we know, like, oh, this isn't real, this is fake, this is filtered because we have been through most of our life without it. But, for you guys. You've seen kind of since 12 filters?

Speaker 3: 2:47

Yeah, no, I really wish so crazy that. Yeah, I mean I feel like it's had a huge effect on my relationship, so 100%.

Speaker 2: 2:54

So one of my friend's daughters is like a snap. You know Snapchat. I've always been with both my kids like like, do not share your fucking location with everybody, you know. Then everybody's like oh, where's so-and-so?

Speaker 3: 3:08

or you know, and it can cause.

Speaker 2: 3:09

I think it's a safety concern. Oh no, it is 100 and so then is your location open on snapchat uh, no, oh, that's good I know like my kids share with certain like close friends yeah, certain people.

Speaker 2: 3:22

But to have it open, because I noticed with my friend's daughter she's always like, oh my God, they're over there and she wasn't invited, or you know, you feel a certain type of way and I think that's so one of the reasons why we don't need to have social media or sharing locations like that. Sharing locations should be a safety thing in my eyes. No, I agree.

Speaker 3: 3:40

Yeah, I will say that I did have my location on for a hot minute on snapchat and I mean, there was an instance where I got into a little altercation with a girl okay, over a boy, of course when I was like in high school and she threatened to come into my house and she was like I screenshotted your location on snapchat, I know where you live and I'm like right, I learned my lesson yeah, see a safety concern.

Speaker 1: 4:07

That's what I've learned my lesson.

Speaker 3: 4:09

But yeah, I know, I, I agree, but I, social media I mean, I've honestly, if I'm going to be honest, I feel like it has more negative effects than it does positive.

Speaker 2: 4:17

If I'm going to be 100 real, yeah, I like social media to keep up with family that you don't really talk to. It's also a place to photo dump, you know, and leave your mark. The memories, the memories. But that's. We're older so that's how we see it. You know um well for you, yeah our generation.

Speaker 3: 4:34

We've been growing up just comparing ourselves to other people. I mean, you see, all these things on social media, what people are doing, what people are wearing, like that's gonna have a massive effect on what you do on a daily basis, whether you like to admit it or not and they are not using it for photo dumping, which is crazy, because I've noticed I have all my photos.

Speaker 1: 4:54

I have 4 000 photos on my instagram, right, I don't want to get rid of because that's my timeline, that's my memories, it's like my photo box, whereas you guys it's opposite. You're like like, oh my gosh, I got to clean this up and you just delete everything.

Speaker 3: 5:06

No, because we only. We delete what we don't want people to see and then we keep up there what we look best in, right? So what do you do with those old photos, do? You archive them. I do archive them. Okay, that's good, so I do have them, but at the same time we only have up the pictures of what we want people to see, it's all an image.

Speaker 2: 5:28

It's an image. It really is an image. I mean, you think about it like I don't think we go on vacation for me I just have fun with it.

Speaker 2: 5:32

We go on vacation. We post our food, we post you know, we're getting on a plane. We post this, we post that. I mean, yeah, like it's, but it's me enjoying my life and I'm sharing it, not for anybody to be jealous. I feel like I've came far enough to be able to do these things where 10, 15 years ago I wasn't able. You know, I couldn't even afford to do those things. So now I'm proud of my own self to be able to, you know, share that.

Speaker 3: 5:59

Well, I will say that a lot of girls my age, I mean I think you know you have a daughter, but I mean we all have these fake accounts, you know it's like it's not our real account.

Speaker 1: 6:10

It's a fake account that nobody knows about no, I know because tater was like seeing your story and I go well, I didn't see that shows. Yeah, you're not on this one, mom, but that's on snap, that's on snapchat so that's yeah, I'm prohibited on something that's that's on snapchat.

Speaker 3: 6:23

So that's yeah, I'm prohibited on something that's that's on snapchat. So that's like the stuff that you know really, you know, intimate my, my good good friends will see like I have like 10 people on. Yeah, I'm not a good good, but I mean no but I tell you everything.

Speaker 3: 6:35

That's exactly what I mean you know a lot of things that you probably shouldn't know about. Yeah, I'm not gonna lie, but when I'm what I'm saying, that's on snapchat, but I'm saying like on Instagram. Yeah, so you know, I'll have two separate accounts and then on my little spam account that I have the fake account. I use that to go and stalk people that I don't even need to be looking at. I do things that I don't need to be doing on that account because of social media Right.

Speaker 1: 7:01

It's like I mean it's a crazy thing, yeah, because the real account of yours can't be caught doing that shit.

Speaker 3: 7:07

You've got an image to maintain, I know, but when I'm you know, it's just, I don't know, it's just not.

Speaker 1: 7:13

Yeah, because my daughter has it affected your relationship with Jax, my son? Yes, it has A hundred percent. Tell just one incident.

Speaker 3: 7:23

I will say you know, I think every person does this. Okay, okay, I'm going to admit. I'm going to admit every I mean every girl does this. You know, you get with a guy and you're like let me see who see whose ex-girlfriends are, you know?

Speaker 3: 7:33

everybody does that yeah, If you, I mean I'm sure Jackson says it was my ex-boyfriends he does so you know. I did. They're just and I got my own feelings hurt 100%. I looked at things that I shouldn't be looking at and it created a lot of insecurities within myself and in our relationship. I mean, we're very good at communicating. I will say so. If I ever have an issue, we can very easily talk it out. We won't ever go to sleep mad at each other.

Speaker 3: 8:02

And that's a really good quality to have. So I will say, if anything's bothering me, we just lay everything out on the table and it's. You know, we talk through it and I've learned my lesson. You know I don't look at things I don't need to be looking at Because you're doing it to yourself.

Speaker 1: 8:15

No, I am At the end of the day.

Speaker 3: 8:16

I am doing it to myself, but it's like you know, it's right there.

Speaker 2: 8:28

It's one click away a young age. It's good that you guys realize that communication is key, because if you can't communicate and if somebody's gonna make you feel bad for feeling the way you do, that's not good.

Speaker 3: 8:34

Well, it was never like that before with my ex-boyfriends. I because it was toxic, it was bad. I'm like let me see your phone right now, let me see your snapchat, because snapchat is always so this is showing you you're in a better relationship now.

Speaker 1: 8:44

Yeah, I mean I really, and maturity, I really don't.

Speaker 3: 8:47

I really feel like I don't have to worry at all and I've never felt like that way before. I've told you this before. I mean I just I feel like I'm we're both at the age where it's like we've gone through those relationships where it's been rocky, and it's like we don't want that for each other. At this point, I mean we're at what. We're 20. He's 23, I'm 22, oh, jayden's married.

Speaker 1: 9:05

How old is she? It still will be Rocky and Life Girl 100%.

Speaker 3: 9:09

I'm not saying it's going to be Sunshine and Rye, See it's nice when you're this age and you can grow with somebody.

Speaker 2: 9:15

But starting over at our age, it's hard because you're like I don't want to put up with the bullshit that you're willing to put up with now she's dealing with it because her mother is in another relationship now.

Speaker 3: 9:27

She's been a single parent since I was about, I think, eight. So, she's been through two divorces.

Speaker 3: 9:35

She's been on and off in multiple relationships, so I've seen what it's like through a single mother and it's really hard and a lot of the time she's like I can't date anymore because these men they just come with so much. I mean, when you get to my, the time she's like I, I can't date anymore because these men they just come with so much. I mean, when you get to my age, like they have kids, they have multiple divorces, they're doing this or doing that and I'm just like I couldn't, I honestly, I couldn't imagine if, like, if I'm like all props to you, like you, misty, you are a rock star like, honestly, because I you're not not saying your age, you know, but at your age, at my age, go ahead girl I wouldn't be able to do it.

Speaker 1: 10:09

I'm just like I'm gonna stay alone forever sometimes I feel like props to you, props to you and and I you know. So amber c's single too and she's a widow as well, so we're both in the same boat of dating. I am older than her, but we won't talk about that anyways. But I'm just saying like the older you get, the harder it is because you do get more like comfortable and like maybe I just grow old alone, like maybe this is where I should go.

Speaker 1: 10:40

You know like maybe I don't need all of it that. And then you know being accountable with somebody or wondering what's going on with that anxiety of somebody else?

Speaker 2: 10:48

Are they hungry? Just all of that. I didn't do the dishes. Is it going to bother him?

Speaker 1: 10:52

Yeah, because when I met Ken I was 39. And I was like gosh, I still have my whole life ahead of me. And then I lost Ken and people were still telling me that they're like you still have your full life ahead of you.

Speaker 3: 11:08

But as you get older, realizing no, maybe I don't, you know, you just don't know, you don't know what. I always tell this to my mom because obviously her and her boyfriend are so in and out, you know they're also, they're so um breaking, they're breaking up and they're getting back together multiple times.

Speaker 3: 11:18

And I always tell her you know, being alone shouldn't be seen as such a negative thing honestly, I think it's a beautiful thing to be alone, and I think that you can find out so much about yourself, so much about others, and I think that I don't think being alone should be seen as such a negative thing. I really do think it's a quite a beautiful thing.

Speaker 2: 11:35

So for me? I saw something recently and it said is being alone really being alone or being single? Is it being, is it lonely or is it freedom? Yeah, what is it like, or is?

Speaker 3: 11:48

it freedom. Yeah, what is it? Because I'm not lonely.

Speaker 2: 11:51

I have the freedom to do as I want. The freedom is nice.

Speaker 1: 11:55

It is very nice.

Speaker 3: 11:56

I mean, I need another me, I can watch whatever.

Speaker 1: 11:58

I want to watch. You know, I'm like take up the whole bed, take up the whole bathroom, the whole closets, closets, heck, yeah, all of it.

Speaker 2: 12:09

It's nice, yeah, yes, okay. What's your next question? Okay, yeah, let's move on. Okay, so that was enough with the social media. Um, what's the most ridiculous excuse you've used to get out of something?

Speaker 3: 12:20

oh, I think that's a very tough question to get out of something. Maybe like a speeding ticket, you miss you know, I've never gotten pulled over Knock on some wood. I've been driving since I was 16. I never got pulled over. I think if I've gotten pulled, if I would get pulled over, I would cry. I don't know what I would do.

Speaker 2: 12:44

I'm scared.

Speaker 3: 12:45

Actually, I'm scared of anything that's bigger than me, um, but I honestly, if I'm gonna be honest, I don't get out of a lot of things, I just do it. You know what I kind of believe that, no, I really do like, if I have a shit, she's a people, pleaser I am oh my god, you know that I'm the biggest people pleaser in the entire world yeah I mean I will say like I've called out of work multiple times with some bullshit, lie, you know, but I've never like made up a huge excuse.

Speaker 1: 13:15

if I'm going to be honest, Like a dumb one, like a big lie. So usually is it like I have a headache or you feel sick, just like those types of excuses.

Speaker 3: 13:21

Yeah, yeah. I'm like I really just sitting on my phone until I get up and put some makeup on.

Speaker 2: 13:27

So, yeah, I think one thing I realized today is that once I am pausing here because I want to know I say this correctly. So I think I don't for me to hold other people accountable for doing things, I have to do them. So if I don't show up to record, how am I going to call you or Nikki out for not showing? I'm not just podcasting, but in life in general. So if I say I'm going to do something, like I'm going to do it because I said I was going to do it, so when you don't do it, I'm going to call you out on it so I?

Speaker 2: 14:04

I realized that today is that I'm like, hey, I don't know what I was talking about, but I was like, oh, wait a minute. Maybe that's why I do that.

Speaker 1: 14:14

You know which is okay, which is so crazy, Cause Carly over here is 22 years old, and you're how old again?

Speaker 2: 14:20

39. I'll be 40, almost 40.

Speaker 1: 14:22

And today you have this epiph I'm 49., 24. No, but I still have epiphanies Like you're still learning about yourself, right? So late in life and you're like holy shit, I've been doing that all these years. Maybe that's why yeah, it's crazy.

Speaker 2: 14:42

Well, I think I've done. I'm more like that now because I'm so structured with my schedule, like if it's on my calendar, I'm like, okay, I plan accordingly. So for me maybe I just do that because I want to be accountable for my own, my own actions and my, you know, if I have kids. So I have to like, do all my scheduling. You know I live by my calendar.

Speaker 1: 15:07

Yeah Well, hey, this is a good segue because I know this about Carly and I wanted to talk about this. Actually she's on a calendar too, because obviously her age these kids are in college, so Carly had a recent sad experience. But I think this is great for us to talk to because I think there's other people out there that are going through the same thing.

Speaker 1: 15:28

You are 100%, and so let's share a little bit about your journey and then, yeah, we'll probably wrap it up so you can go on your date night with my son.

Speaker 3: 15:36

So basically, I graduated in 2020 from high school and I started taking college classes while I was actually still in high school. I was doing both. It was like an early enrollment type of deal. So I was, you know, I got ahead of the game and I was so back and forth with nursing. I was like an early enrollment type of deal, so I was, you know, I got ahead of the game and I was so back and forth with nursing.

Speaker 3: 15:55

I was like I don't know if I want to be a nurse, but this is something that I really do feel like is my calling, because I'm very much, I love helping people. I mean, if I oh my gosh any little thing, I just love being there, I love being ahead of the game. I just that's just me. Um, I love people, I'm very social, I'm a social butterfly, um. But I was so back and forth and so I changed my major. A couple of times I was going into business, and then I went to ag business, um, and I eventually, after a good like three and a half, almost four years, finished my prerequisites and I recently applied for nursing school.

Speaker 3: 16:31

I applied to two places I played to fresno pacific and fresno city, not really knowing the amount of competition that was going to be there. I had an idea, but I didn't know to what extent. I think I just had a lot of hope.

Speaker 1: 16:46

Um that because she had good grades, she had decent t scores and all these things.

Speaker 3: 16:51

Okay this, I'm a good package, yeah so I had a lot of hope and I didn't get in. I didn't get into either school. Um, I found out, maybe about I don't even know on the 19th, so a couple days ago, that I didn't get into city and then a fresno pacific a couple weeks ago. So I'm like back and forth, because I mean at my age and segwaying back to social media. I'm seeing all these people around me graduate and they're already people already working in the hospital.

Speaker 1: 17:18

And they and some got their acceptance letters and they're posting on social media Right. Some of them is a lottery.

Speaker 3: 17:23

Some of them are point systems, so it kind of just depends on where you're going. But I'm seeing all these people succeed and I'm just like I'm not there yet, like I haven't even gotten into school, and so it, you know, it really bums me out because I'm seeing all these people do so well and so in my head I'm like I'm behind, I'm behind, I'm behind, I'm behind, and I, I have such high expectations for myself, so I really bum myself out a lot when I'm not, you know, I don't meet up to par with you know, you're an overachiever

Speaker 3: 17:48

yeah, well, timing is everything yes, I'm trying to tell myself that. I mean obviously you know, and these schools amber they.

Speaker 1: 17:57

She cannot reapply for a year is that I know, so that's ridiculous is there any other schools?

Speaker 2: 18:04

what about does fresno state?

Speaker 3: 18:06

no, fresno state does, but my gpa isn't high enough, so I mean that's how competitive is I have a good gpa, but it's not where it should be to even apply, um.

Speaker 3: 18:16

So I didn't even shoot my shot there because I was like I'm not gonna waste my time, you know, um, but there are some schools in visalia, so I'm gonna be applying this next month to both schools in visalia. But I mean, who wants to drive there exactly? So I'm like, if I get into Visalia, let me either buy myself a new car I'm getting an apartment, one of the two because, yeah, I mean, especially when you're in nursing school, you have such long days.

Speaker 3: 18:40

I mean you have clinicals that are eight, nine hours long. You have to be there at six, three in the morning and I mean it's. I mean, I'm not gonna lie, it's dangerous. I mean going that early in the morning, you're half asleep, it's not something that I want to do, but I'm not going to give up. I'm not going to give up.

Speaker 1: 18:57

I'm going to keep my eyes open, keep my head clear, and then I have a friend of mine, jamie, that happened to come around, see, I think it was all timing the day of. Divine intervention.

Speaker 2: 19:13

She's in her 40s and she's now after three times got into nursing school.

Speaker 1: 19:14

Wow, she'll, she don't give up, yeah, and she's in her 40s. She's like you're only 22, you're not behind the game. But I think it goes back to your first question. These, the pressure they put on themselves because they see this on social media. You know what I mean.

Speaker 3: 19:26

All these people media, oh my gosh. Yeah, I'm not a fan, but know I can't keep myself off of it.

Speaker 2: 19:32

So well, I want to. I want to ask you something else to end this Um. What advice would you give teens graduating from high school today?

Speaker 3: 19:41

Oh my gosh, do not get a boyfriend in high school.

Speaker 1: 19:46

I like that one.

Speaker 3: 19:47

Yeah, no need, do not get a boyfriend in high school and fresh out of college. Bad idea, um, I'm just kidding. No, I'm not um, but honestly, do not listen to what other people tell you or what people think about you. I mean, that's the biggest thing on it. You can only say so much. You know you can't tell someone, oh, don't. You know, don't believe what they say. They're gonna believe what they want. But you know you can, you can, you can I don't know what the word I'm finding is you can, um, inspire, or you know you can tell them. You know, just do your own thing. You know, just do your own thing. Do not care about what other people think. Wear what you want, do your hair how you want, think how you want, love who you want. I mean, just be happy. Yeah, honestly, do what makes you only. I know this is so cliche, but you only live once and life is such a beautiful thing, so don't waste your time on pleasing other people. Please yourself.

Speaker 1: 20:40

I love that please yourself, less anxiety, all of it, and being alone is okay yeah, you don't need a boy or a girl or a mother or a dad.

Speaker 3: 20:49

All you need is yourself and you know your strength. Yeah, yeah, that's all. That's literally all you need, yeah.

Speaker 2: 20:56

Well, I think that's a good ending with Carly. Good job, can we?

Speaker 1: 21:01

I just love heat waves, I know. But I'm kind of curious what she'll say Okay, okay.

Speaker 3: 21:06

So we do, like you know, the Valley heat wave. Oh, yes, I know what you're talking about. Oh, because you've heard of the podcast.

Speaker 1: 21:11

Yes, girl, I listen to the podcast. So this past week, what was your heat? So, something that made you angry, right? Something that just like pisses you off, and I think I know what this is but still, I think, the podcast knows what it is, and then what your wave is like. Yes, wave, wave makes you happy.

Speaker 3: 21:28

this past week, um, I will say my heat, obviously without being into nursing school, not getting into your school. I think they just, you know, they can't handle me. I think I'm just too good for them.

Speaker 3: 21:38

You know, I love her I like that too, you're flipping the script, girl, it's because you know I have a big butt, I'm pretty and I'm smart, so they can't handle it no, I'm just kidding um, but yeah, you know, that would obviously be my heat, but being optimistic, my wave would be you know what today I will say a lot of people on my birthday have reached out to me that I didn't think would reach out to me I haven't talked to in years. And they reached out to me. They told me happy birthday. And not only that. I feel like, like you guys, misty and tatum, they have made my birthday so special, and Jackson has made my birthday so special and them coming into my life has been such a blessing. I love them so much.

Speaker 3: 22:20

We love you, honey, but this year I've just felt so much love, or yeah, this whole week, I mean obviously this year, but this week and today I've just felt so much love and yeah.

Speaker 1: 22:30

I love that what about you.

Speaker 2: 22:32

You Ams. Well, I'm gonna say my heat is that on my way over here I was in the garage, I was about to get in my car and I was sitting in my car with the door open, about to shut it, and then I saw this thing that's leaning up against the wall about to hit my car. So I, like, reached out as my car door is shutting, and it slammed on my arm oh shit so I'm okay.

Speaker 2: 22:53

But I was like what the fuck? Now I'm gonna have a bruise and you know it's hot out, so I don't want to have bruises on my arms, got you? Um, I'd say my wave is I'm taking another trip you are yes okay, where to vegas?

Speaker 1: 23:08

okay, that's the next one you're doing, yeah.

Speaker 2: 23:09

The Vegas um for my mom's birthday.

Speaker 1: 23:12

So where are you staying?

Speaker 2: 23:13

We're staying at the Vidara Vidara.

Speaker 1: 23:16

I've never stayed there. You'll have to let us know. It's nice. Yeah, you guys need to take me to Vegas. What made you choose Vidara?

Speaker 2: 23:23

Uh, my mom chose it, but I've stayed there before. Um, remember I told you I get MGM comps. Yes, so it's just kind of a Vegas goer, yeah. Yeah, I go when I get free rooms, I don't blame you and they give you food and beverage credit a little bit of free play, you know. So I mean it's worth it. I mean you end up spending more money, but yeah, it's fine, so what about you?

Speaker 1: 23:47

I posted on my Facebook so some people, I think might've saw it, and my heat is you're talking to somebody hanging out with somebody and then, for no reason, like you're like, okay, I'm expecting a call Like bye, great time, you had a conversation, everything leading up great time, and then literally never hear from them again.

Speaker 2: 24:08

It's the weirdest fucking thing that is weird that's ghosting that? That, no, that is the definition. I didn't know the what your situation was.

Speaker 1: 24:16

I did see your obviously I call true ghosting. Yeah, that's a true ghoster yeah, and, and it's like I know it's not me, it's always them that, or true ghoster, it's not you, because in that I mean, unless they heard something just crazy about you, but even then, like they should have the balls to be able to reach out and be like, hey, I just don't think this is a good fit.

Speaker 2: 24:36

You know what I mean. Maybe he thought that you were too good for him.

Speaker 1: 24:40

Then say I just don't think we're going to be a good match. Yeah, like so people out there just give the respect and common courtesy just another human being that you're walking away. Common courtesy, just another human being, but you're walking away. That's all I'm saying, I think. And if a person can't take that, then okay, block, delete, bye. You know what I mean, right? But I think a mature person will be like hey, thanks for letting me know, at least you didn't ghost me, you know. And then that's it.

Speaker 2: 25:04

Boom, boom, I think we need to talk about this on.

Speaker 3: 25:06

Well, he's obviously a weenie, so you can, he's a weenie, a big fat weenie little weenie, so so you can hear him. He's a weenie, a big fat weenie, little weenie.

Speaker 1: 25:12

So what is your wave? My wave, and you kids will know this. Jackson definitely knows this. I love Arm Hammer Magic Erasers oh my gosh. No, I really do. I'm obsessed. Like when I'm low on them, I'm ordering another supply. You should just get a subscription. Well, Like when I'm low on them, I'm ordering another supply.

Speaker 3: 25:35

You should just get a subscription. Well, I'm trying to get a partnership here.

Speaker 1: 25:36

Arm Hammer Sponsor us. Yeah, no, are they always in the bathroom? Oh my God, do you guys ever use them?

Speaker 3: 25:42

No, your son should be like, oh my God, with his beard hairs everywhere.

Speaker 2: 25:48

Oh my goodness, I don't miss having a man in the home.

Speaker 1: 25:51

See, but that honestly I just realize it's a small thing. Sometimes I'm like I really fucking love these yeah.

Speaker 2: 25:57

Yeah, I've used them before. I mean they're good. All right, you guys, With that, we're going to sign off and say Roger that, Roger that.

Speaker 1: 26:07

Roger that.